How Do You Know If Your In A Toxic Relationship?
J. Parks
First off, a toxic relationship is a relationship that has consecutive issues. There are multiple signals to be aware of that will help you determine whether you are in a toxic relationship or not. The signals are usually within yourself or your partner’s behavior. Relationships usually get toxic when someone loses interest in their partner or wants to find someone new.
It’s many signals that can help you determine a toxic relationship but there are some primary signals that will guarantee you if are in a toxic relationship. Analyze each primary signal that’s listed below to see if any of the signals relates to you. Knowing these primary signals is important in order to resolve the toxicity that appears in your romantic relationship.
1. Rude Attitude.
The first primary signal to be aware of to identify if you are in a toxic relationship or not is a rude attitude. In a romantic relationship, couples shouldn’t get irritated with each other to the point where they have to be mean every chance they get to. Couples who never can have a pleasant attitude with one another is a sign that they are in an unhealthy relationship.
Also, just because couples have a rude attitude toward each other every now and then doesn’t mean they have a toxic relationship. Sometimes couples have to show tough love so they will take each other feelings seriously. Always being kind to your partner could cause them to take your feelings for granted.
So having an attitude with your partner can be a good thing but can’t have an attitude too often. Any couple who always has an attitude toward each other is a sign they’re unhappy in their relationship.
2. Physical Abuse.
Any type of physical abuse between a couple is another primary signal of a toxic relationship. During a romantic relationship, there shouldn’t be no violence between people who love one another. People usually only abuse someone that they don’t like or care for and to be in a romantic relationship with a person you suppose to like and care for them.
Therefore, a couple who abuse each other is a couple who has hate in their relationship but chooses to stay together for other reasons. Some couples try to make their relationship last for their children but if they truly dislike each other then the relationship won’t last too long. When couples try to save their relationship just for their children and don’t truly have interest in one another anymore then the relationship sometimes leads to violence from all the tension between the two.
A relationship that contains any violence is most definitely considered toxic. No relationship that contains violence should exist because it’ll only cause couples to hate each other more and more over time. Eventually, someone will get tired of fighting and will decide to leave for someone new.
3. Constant Complaints.
The third primary signal to look for is constant complaining. Anyone who has a complaint about everything their partner does is most likely the toxic person in their relationship. Getting frustrated by your partner’s every move shows that you don’t believe in their decisions. Relationships are equivalent to partnerships, so someone who always complains about their partner’s effort is someone who wants every situation to end how they planned it. A person like that is classified as a narcissist and they are usually the people that make relationships toxic.
People who become narcissists are usually unhappy in their relationship and will find any reason to complain about a situation so their partner would hopefully want to leave. Complaining is how arguments often happen over time and don’t always end well between couples. Hate develops in a relationship when arguments don’t end with an agreement.
Once hate appears in a relationship couples become distant from one another. They will begin to avoid each other presence and that causes toxicity to their relationship.
4. Disrespect.
Hate in a relationship leads to couples disrespecting each other. Disrespecting your partner usually means you believe your partner isn’t as valuable as you. Somewhat like you believe your partner isn’t as intelligent as you and they don’t deserve to be respected.
No matter what gender a person is, everyone deserves to be respected. If someone doesn’t get the respect they deserve in a relationship then they’ll start causing conflicts. People can only take so much disrespect before they start reciprocating the same energy. Couples who go back and forth disrespecting each other cause their relationship to become more and more toxic over time.
Respect has to be present at all times between couples to maintain a healthy relationship. Allowing your partner to disrespect you can damage your self-esteem and affect your mental health.
5. Controlling Behavior.
Letting your partner affect your mental health gives them access to control your mental state. They’ll always tell you what you can and can’t do which will damage your self-control over time. Being with someone who tells you how you can and can’t live will label your relationship as toxic.
In a romantic relationship, both parties should have the right to do what they want to do at all times. Don’t try to be a parent to your partner because they will eventually get annoyed with your controlling actions.
Most men for sure dislike being told what to do but there are women who are submissive and enjoy being controlled. Men leading the way in a relationship is a lot of women’s love language but to a certain extinct. A man who doesn’t let his partner make her own decisions at times will be known as a controlling guy which is a turn-off for most women.
Conclusion:
In this blog post, JParksJr provides signals to be aware of to determine a toxic relationship. There are dozens of signals you should be aware of but JParksJr provides the 5 primary signals. You should evaluate these signals to see if they are present in your relationship or not.
The 5 primary signals to be aware of are rude attitudes, physical abuse, complaints, disrespect, and controlling behavior. A relationship that contains any of these symptoms will be identified as a toxic relationship. The Bonding Stages can help you avoid making your relationship toxic.