What Are Abusive Relationships?
J. Parks
There are many different types of relationships you can have with someone, but the last type you want to have is an abusive one. People who are in an abusive relationship will most likely have more conflicts than people who is in a romantic relationship. Too many conflicts in a relationship is what cause couples to become less happy over time.
An abusive relationship is when someone is being in-control of their partner’s actions and punish them if they disobey. Being punished by someone you are in a romantic relationship with won’t strengthen your love for them. Having a partner who always wants to control everything you do and punish you for not doing it will eventually cause you to build hate toward your partner.
It’s several ways a person can be abusive in their relationship. People think it’s only one form of abuse which is physical abuse. Believe it or not but it’s actually other forms of abuse and they are listed below.
Different forms of abuse:
It’s about 5 different forms of abuse people can experience in their relationships. The five forms of abuse are physical, emotional, financially, sexually, and psychological. Below is a description of each form of abuse.
Physical abuse –
Physical abuse is when someone uses their hands or any of their body parts to discipline someone else. Using a tool to hurt someone’s body parts is also physical abuse.
Emotional abuse –
Emotional abuse is when someone uses words or gestures to hurt someone else feelings. A person crying is a sign that they could have been emotionally abused.
Financial abuse –
Financial abuse is when a person uses their funds as the power to discipline someone else. For instance, if a husband and his wife have a joint bank account but only the husband is allowed to access the account then that’s a form of financial abuse.
Sexual abuse –
Sexual abuse is being touched on by someone you didn’t give permission to. You can also be sexually abused verbally if someone says something inappropriate about your body.
Psychology abuse –
Psychology abuse is when someone manipulates others to get what they want even if it’s not right. If someone can control how you should think then you are psychologically abused.
Evaluate your current partner’s behavior to find out if they present any of the forms of abuse listed above. Analyzing your partner’s behavior towards you will expose if you are currently in an abusive relationship or not.
An abusive relationship warning signs:
Without physical evidence then it’s difficult to realize if you’re in an abusive relationship or not. JParksJr provides some warning signs for people to be aware of to know if they are in an abusive relationship. These warning signs below won’t be easy to identify early on in the relationship but they’ll eventually be noticeable once your partner gets more comfortable with you.
Controlling Behavior
A person who always wanna control what their partner can do and say is a sign of being abusive.
Constant Yelling
People who raise the tone of their voice towards their partner when irritated is considered verbal abuse.
Threatening
Anyone who tells others they are willing to harm to get what they want is considered dangerous and is capable of being abusive in a relationship.
Constant Criticism
A person who never believes in their partner’s suggestions and always has an alternate plan for their partner to follow is a sign of abuse. It shows they don’t trust their partner’s decision-making.
Aggressiveness
Someone who is always angry at their partner even if they did nothing wrong and never can be gentle towards their partner is most likely a abuser in the relationship.
If you notice any of these characteristics in your partner then it’s a high possibility you are currently in an abusive relationship or your relationship is going to become abusive over time.
Abusive relationships effects:
Abusive relationships affect people in many ways. In my opinion, abusive relationships effects take a toll on people’s mental health more than any other form of health. People’s mental health usually gets permanently damaged after experiencing an abusive relationship.
The mental and emotional effects of an abusive relationship are usually difficult to overcome. Effects of abuse are depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder. The effects are labeled as mental illnesses. Mental illnesses are difficult to overcome which makes abuse more impactful to people’s mental health than any other form of health.
The physical effects are easier to deal with than the mental effects because most physical effects heal easier over time. Bruises, broken bones, and swelling are the usual physical effects of abusive relationships. Each physical effect mentioned above is capable of healing so victims sometimes forgive their abuser after a while because victims forget about the negative impact of physical effects once they heal.
There are also economic effects to be aware of in an abusive relationship. Victims in abusive relationships lack control and access to their funds. Abusers take control of their partner’s funds so their partner won’t have a choice but to stay in a relationship with them even if their partner wants to leave.
The effects listed above are common effects people witness in an abusive relationship. Avoid abusive relationships so you won’t have to experience any of the physical, mental, and economic effects.
How to help someone in a abusive relationship?
There are many ways to help a victim in an abusive relationship. Some victims don’t always want help because they don’t want to seem weak but you should always be willing to help even if they really don’t want it. Your help can assist victim’s with escaping their abusive relationship and become better as a person.
For the victims who actually want help then the first tactic you should do to help them is to listen carefully to their condition. Most victims just be needing someone to listen to them express their feelings because it’s a way for the victim to release the stress they have built up. Carefully listening will help a victim realize there are people who actually care about their situation.
Not only will listening help a victim in an abusive relationship but showing support will also help a lot. Providing feedback and advice is an example of showing support. Giving a victim of an abusive relationship some words of encouragement could motivate them to escape the abusive relationship they are in.
Another way to help a victim of abuse is by respecting their privacy. If a victim asks you not to share their situation with others then you should respect their command. When a victim know they can trust you with their secrets then they’ll continue to open up to you which will benefit their mental health.
Listening, supporting, and respecting a victim’s privacy won’t necessarily help them escape their abusive relationship. You honestly would just be assisting with healing their mental illness that was caused by the abuse. To fully help a victim escape then you should call authorities when the abuser decides to attack the victim again. Make sure the victim is aware so they’ll be willing to press charges and make sure you have evidence for the authorities. Calling authorities will guarantee the victim can escape if the victim willing to press charges.
Conclusion:
This blog post elaborates on what an abusive relationship is and the different forms of abuse that affect people in an abusive relationship. There are roughly five forms of abuse which are physical, emotional, financial, sexual, and psychological abuse. A description of each form is provided above.
JParksJr also provides warning signs and effects of abuse for people to be aware of so they’ll know if they’re in an abusive relationship or not. People be getting abused either financially or psychologically but don’t know it because it’s not noticeable. It’s a description of each warning sign above so people can identify how they are getting abused in their relationship.
There are different ways you can help a victim that’s in an abusive relationship. JParksJr provided the most common ways people can help someone from abuse. You can either help a victim to physically escape their situation or help them deal with their situation mentally, it’s your choice.