What Not To Do On The First Date?
J. Parks
Your first date with someone will be the most important date of them all. The first date will determine if you get a chance to go on many more dates or not. If the first date goes wrong then it’s unlikely you’ll get a chance to go on a second date.
To prevent you or anyone else from witnessing a terrible first date, JParksJr listed some things you shouldn’t do. The advice that’s provided will help your first impression be remarkable if you take it into consideration. An excellent first impression will guarantee your crush will like you enough to want to go on multiple dates in the future.
Most definitely heed the first advice listed below if you want your date to start and end amazingly. People in our generation struggle with this advice, but if you consider it, it’ll boost the likelihood that your first date will be one of your most significant.
1. Don’t scroll on your phone too often.
Scrolling on your cellphone most of the time can affect how your first date goes. You need to show the person you’re on the date with more attention than you’re showing your cellphone. Keeping your date entertained is more important than the entertainment on your phone.
It’s okay to use your phone to find topics to talk about on your first date if you need new ideas. I advise you not to search for new topics to talk about for too long. The person you are on the date with will most likely get bored of your presence and will want to leave early.
Engage with your date as much as possible to prevent them from getting bored. Once they start feeling bored they’ll begin to scroll on their phone more and pay less attention to you. Especially if you are on a date with a woman, they’ll scroll through Tiktok to find entertainment since they can’t get it from you. So be mindful of how long you scroll on your phone when on a first date.
2. Don’t ask too many questions.
An alternate way to bore your date is by asking them too many questions. No one wants to feel like they are in an interrogation room when they actually go out to enjoy themselves. Too many questions can harm the vibe.
Not only can asking your date too many questions harm the vibe but asking the wrong questions can also. The wrong questions to ask on first dates are usually personal questions. Asking a question that’s too personal can make a person feel uncomfortable and can cause the date to become awkward.
3. Don't mention your ex.
Venting about your ex can cause the date to get awkward. Talking about a past relationship seems like you are dwelling on the past. Dwelling will switch the energy of the date from positive to negative suddenly.
The person you are on the date with will most likely assume you miss your ex if you bring their name up more than once. It’s okay to open up a bit about your past conflicts in a relationship but keep it limited. Show signs that you are willing to focus on the future with someone new instead.
4. Don’t consume too much alcohol.
People who are over the age of 21 usually like to have a date at places that serve alcohol. I believe people like to consume alcohol while on a date because it unleashes their confidence. For instance, I notice I’m more confident to ask what’s on my mind and speak my true feelings when I consume enough alcohol.
Speaking your true feelings after drinking too much alcohol can be a problem. After a certain amount of alcohol, you’ll become careless of what you say and the words you say may sound hurtful or aggressive to your date. Alcohol can cause you to get out of character and embarrass yourself so it’s best to be mindful of how much you consume.
5. Don’t avoid eye contact while talking.
Not only can you embarrass yourself by drinking too much alcohol but avoiding eye contact while having a conversation can be a sign of embarrassment too. Looking in other directions while talking is what most shy people do when they get nervous. Can’t be acting or being shy when getting to know someone because the person you are on the date with will feel like you don’t find them attractive.
Looking someone in the eyes while they talk shows you are interested in what they saying. Don’t make your date feel like they are boring you by not paying attention while talking. They’ll for sure wouldn’t wanna go out with you again if they begin to feel that you are uninterested.
Overview:
Above is advice you should take heed doing on your first date. It’s advice that’ll insure you have a remarkable first date and will increase the possibility of going on more dates with the individual. The advice JParksJr suggests are:
- Don’t scroll on your phone too often
- Don’t ask too many questions
- Don’t mention your ex
- Don’t consume too much alcohol
- Don’t avoid eye contact while talking.
Consider each suggestion and witness how smoothly your date goes. For additional dating advice check out Speak To Spark Arousal.