How To Date Single Moms?
J. Parks
I think dating a single mom is not much different than dating a woman with no kids. The only real difference between the two is that one has a kid and the other one doesn’t. Kids or not, I think you should treat all women equally.
An issue you may have with treating a single mom like she is regular is that the single mom will react differently than any other woman would. Single moms don’t tolerate a lot of stuff because they probably already dealt with it in their past relationships. Therefore, the smooth-talking you do on most women won’t always work on single moms.
The steps listed below will guide men on how to date and treat single moms. Follow the guidelines and I guarantee dating a single mom won’t be as difficult as it may seem.
1.Establish your intentions right away.
One thing about single moms is that they hate getting their time wasted. That’s a reason why single moms usually start dating to marry after their past relationship doesn’t last. They avoid dating men who don’t know what their intentions are because they don’t want to repeat the same conflict that caused them to become a single mom.
A conflict most couples face is that they don’t have an agreement on their relationship before having a baby. So once the baby arrives the mom and father began having too many differences which cause most couples to split. There are couples who believe having a baby could make their relationship stronger but having a baby can destroy the relationship without an agreement established first.
If you plan on dating a single mom then it’s best to express your intentions right away so she’ll be comfortable with catching feelings for you. As long as she detects that you are hiding your intentions then she will hide her feelings for you. In order to build a strong relationship with a single mom then you have to express your feelings to her.
2. Mean what you say.
Being honest with a single mom is the second thing you should consider when dating. You should be honest with any women you date but single moms may react differently than others. A single mom doesn’t really tolerate dishonestly from people.
I believe moms dislike dishonestly because they dealt with it so much in previous relationships. Maybe their kid’s father was constantly lying to them and they grew to hate liars. No one should like liars but all liars deserve forgiveness and a woman that’s been lied to so many times won’t forgive as easily.
Not meaning what you say to a woman who hates being lied to will affect you negatively. She won’t believe half of what you say and it’s going to be difficult to gain her trust. A relationship without trust involved won’t last forever so if you plan on being with a single mom forever then you need to be truly honest with her.
3. Be understanding.
Learning to be understanding is the third tactic you should consider when dating a woman that’s a single parent. You have to understand that her time is limited since the majority of her time is occupied to care for her child or children. A single parent’s priority will always be their children and that’s something you have to be okay with or the relationship won’t last long.
Men with narcissistic personalities won’t collaborate well with single moms when dating. Narcissistic men always want things to happen their way but that won’t always happen if they date a lady that’s a single parent. Single moms have to put their kid’s needs first and most narcissistic men are not okay with that.
So if you are a man who always wanna be your partner’s main priority then dating a single mom is not a good idea for you. Any man who’s cool with not receiving all of their partner’s attention is capable of dating a single mother.
4. Accept her kid.
This fourth piece of advice is very important when wanting to date a single mother. You need to understand a mother won’t neglect her baby for someone she just met. Therefore, don’t expect her to spend more time or do more for you than she would for her own child.
There are mothers on earth who will let a man manipulate them into spending more time with him than they would with their own child. Luckily, it’s not too many of them kind of women exist. Majority of the mothers that choose the person they are dating above their child usually be mentally ill.
I believe no mother that’s in their right state of mind would put a man they just started dating above their child or children. A man just has to accept women’s children like they are his own if he wants the relationship to work. Women should do the same if they date a man with kids.
5. Provide for her child.
Last but not least, the fifth piece of advice I have for you is to be willing to provide for her kid. I wouldn’t necessarily start providing for a single mom child in the beginning stage of dating though. It’s best to wait and make sure you and the mother are serious about the relationship before you begin providing.
The reason I suggest you wait till you know for sure if the relationship is serious before providing for her child is that you don’t want your help to get misused. You might buy the kid school clothes and shoes then halfway through the school year, the mother could happen to get back with her baby’s father. Even though your help didn’t go to waste, your help could’ve gone toward a child whose mother wants a future with you.
To avoid getting your precious help misused then you have to get verification from the single mom that she plans on being with you forever if possible. Providing for a women’s child can cost you a lot of money over time so you should make sure you are honestly prepared for it first. Taking heed of the advice I provided will make sure you are prepared to date a single mom.
Overview:
JParksJr suggests some advice that will guarantee your relationship will last as long as possible with a single mom. All it takes is knowing what a single mom wants out of a man in a relationship. Based on the list below of things single moms look for in a man, do you believe that you are qualified?
The advice I’m referring to is:
- Establish your intentions.
- Mean what you say.
- Be understanding.
- Accept her kid.
- Provide for her kid.
Follow each one of these procedures and watch how good your relationship with a single mom becomes. For additional information on dating women then check out The Tao Of Badass.