8 Questions To Ask Before Getting Serious:
J. Parks
I believe people are so quick to get into a relationship nowadays. People should take the time to learn as much as they can about a person before getting into a serious relationship with them. Learning as much as you can about someone will allow you to find any characteristics you don’t like before making them your partner.
Once someone become your partner and then you notice a characteristic of them you dislike, it’s not necessarily right to break up with them over one bad trait. That’s why it’s best to discuss some things with them before getting into a serious relationship. JParksJr suggests some questions to discuss before getting into a relationship so you don’t discover a flaw once it’s too late.
1. What do you consider as cheating?
This question is probably the most important question you can ask someone that you plan on getting serious with. Many people have different definitions for cheating so it’s best you and your potential partner agree on what cheating means before becoming official. If the definition of cheating doesn’t get discussed before getting serious then it’s a high possibility some activities will occur that one of y’all won’t agree with.
Activities such as complimenting others or being friendly could be considered cheating to most but maybe not to you. In my opinion, cheating is only flirting with others or having sexual interactions with someone other than your partner. Many people would disagree so you should establish what activities is considered cheating to your potential partner to prevent any confrontation once y’all get in a relationship.
2. Do you want kids in the future?
Asking your potential partner about having children in the future is important. It’s most definitely important if you or your potential partner currently has children. Everyone is not open to having more kids so asking first will save you from getting serious with someone who is not willing to start a family with you.
Or maybe you are the one who doesn’t want any kids and your potential partner does then you need to inform them early on. The right thing to do is to give them the opportunity to decide if they’ll be okay with not having kids before getting serious with you.
3. What’s something you won’t tolerate in a relationship?
This particular question will prepare you for what you can and can’t do during a relationship. Something so simple could be a deal breaker for your potential partner and could cause them to leave you if you end up doing it just once. Of course, an action like cheating wouldn’t be tolerated but something such as lying could also cause you to lose your relationship.
You could be telling a lie as a joke but your potential partner may dislike lying so much that they’ll still be upset after learning you were joking. Then you’ll have to apologize and hope they’ll forgive you for lying. Apologizing doesn’t always work because most likely it’ll be too soon in the relationship for them to trust what you say. Therefore, to avoid worrying if your potential partner will tolerate any activities you like doing then you need to discuss what bothers them beforehand.
4.Do you have any habits?
Wanting to know about someone’s habits can be too personal for them in the early stages of talking. It would help if you asked about their habits once a decision between y’all is made about getting serious. Questioning their habits on the first date or within the first few days y’all been talking could make them uninterested in you so you have to be careful.
Ensure it’s an appropriate time to ask about their habits during the talking phase. Being aware of your potential partner’s habits before getting serious is necessary. Their habits could interfere with your income once a relationship is established between y’all so it’s best to know what you getting yourself into.
5. What career you want or currently have?
Speaking of income, you should want to know how your potential partner generates income before getting into a serious relationship with them. I’m sure you don’t want to be the only person providing and paying bills in the household so you have to make sure your potential partner is capable of helping. Being the only person who provides means you have to work two times harder than you normally would have to.
Nothing is wrong with working two times harder but it could cause health issues for some people. Overworking can cause mental and physical health issues depending on the type of work you do. To avoid the possibility of going through health issues then you should make sure your potential partner has a stable career.
Now if you are the type of person who doesn’t mind paying all the bills in the household then your potential partner’s career doesn’t matter as much.
6. Why your last relationship didn’t work?
To find out if your potential partner is a toxic person or not then you need to know why their recent relationship didn’t last. The reason will determine if they are worth being your lifelong partner. It’ll only be hard to determine if the reasoning wasn’t their fault.
Most relationships usually end because someone cheated so you should make sure your potential partner wasn’t the one who did the cheating in their previous relationship. Sad to say but it’s most likely the men who do the cheating according to IFStudies. Therefore, women should definitely consider asking their potential partner this question if they are a man.
7. Can you keep secrets?
When you are in a relationship, you suppose to be able to trust your partner to keep important information to themselves if you need them to. Someone who will gossip to others about your personal information isn’t someone you should get serious with. They are usually the type that will let others talk about you behind your back instead of defending you.
People who would spread your secrets to others obviously don’t care about your privacy or insecurities. They’ll be okay with others making fun of you while you not around and a partner like that is not worth being in a relationship with at all. Be with someone who will cherish your secrets just as much as they would cherish their own.
8. Do you believe in second chances?
This a question you ask your potential partner to see if they would possibly forgive you after making a simple mistake. No one should think about future mistakes but at the end of the day, no one is perfect. So you have to make sure your potential partner wouldn’t be quick to judge you based on a simple mistake you make once y’all get serious.
Although every mistake doesn’t deserve to be forgiven, you still shouldn’t be punished for your first mistake in a relationship. Unless you do something foul like cheating then that kind of behavior doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. A behavior such as flirting could be considered a mistake depending on the situation you are in. For instance, if you and your friends go to a bar and you say something flirty to someone because you had too many alcoholic beverages then that’s a mistake that could be forgiven. As long as you promise your partner that it won’t happen again they should be willing to forgive you.
Conclusion:
Above are eight questions you should consider asking someone before getting into a relationship with them. These questions can be asked to men or to women. Questions three, five, six, and seven are perfect questions to ask a guy before getting into a serious relationship with them. Women, these are questions to ask a guy to know if he is serious about you. Since guys are more likely to cheat in a relationship question six is a mandatory ask.
The first, second, fourth, and eighth question is particularly meant for women but can be asked to men also. Women are usually more sensitive than men in a relationship so asking them the first question will give a man an understanding of what to expect if he decides to get serious. Each question listed will give you extra insight to know if your potential partner is worth your time or not. For the women who want additional information on questions to ask before getting serious check out Unlock His Love.